The Destructive Trait of Worry
Ninety percent of worry is considered by the experts to be needless.
Some people are consumed with worry.
They may worry about their health, the health of their loved ones, or
just nonsense that others may believe to be foolish. Worry can consume
a person’s life, drain their energy, and weaken the immune system,
causing a person to get sick more easily.
Worry can infect almost anyone at any time. But if I find myself
worrying needlessly, I ask myself, “Do I have control over this situation?
Can I change the outcome? Then forget about it!” That’s right. I tell
myself, “Forget about it!” As soon as the words are spoken, a certain
feeling of relief sets in. You can also say, “And this, too, shall pass.”
The realization that the outcome of the situation is out of my
control relieves the tension. There is a great statement that puts it all
into perspective:
Things We Worry About
Things that never happen: 40%.
Things over and past, that can’t be changed: 30%.
Needless worries about our health: 12%.
Petty, miscellaneous worries: 10%.
Real legitimate worries: 8%
Which leaves 92 percent of all worry we do as useless.
—Dr. Walter Cavert
We all have a variety of worries and fears as we go through life: fear
of not marrying the right person, of failing in business, of dying, of the
loss of a loved one, of being poor, and thousands of other fears.
You can control your fears by using these techniques:
1. Put the fear in proper perspective.
2. Analyze the fear. Why are you worrying?
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3. What is the worst possible thing that could happen? If the worst
possible thing does happen, will you still have your mind? Will
you still be alive? How terrible will it really be? In reality, how
terribly important is this thing that worries you?
4. Write out the worst possible scenario on paper, then remind
yourself that 92 percent of all worrying is not necessary.
We Are Each Born into This World Destined for Greatness!
The true measure of a person’s success in life should not be judged by
their rise to wealth or stature, but rather by the degree to which they have
positively influenced other lives in their own lifetime.
—JPC
Born in Sharon, Pennsylvania, John D. MacDonald wished, as a
young boy, that he had been born a writer, believing that writers were
a separate “race,” marked somehow from birth. By the time he died, he
had published seventy-eight books with more than 75 million copies in
print. He wrote nearly five hundred short stories and published his first
novel, The Brass Cupcake, in 1950. John MacDonald passed on in 1986
at the early age of 70, but he continues to earn praise from millions of
readers and lasting respect from fellow authors.
I remember writing my own very first novel years ago. It took me
five years to complete it. And my first self-help book took fifteen years
until it was in print. It is difficult to comprehend one person writing
seventy-eight books.
MacDonald served as a real influence in my writing of novels.
He wrote in the first-person style, and his fiction was very visual and
believable. I tried to emulate him. I wonder how many other first-time
authors have been inspired by him in their writing careers.
MacDonald’s books are still being sold today, over sixty years after
he published his first book. You see, we can each evolve into greatness.
We can each touch many thousands of lives positively in our own
lifetime. Just as the air we breathe infiltrates our bodies, so, too, can
a well-written book infect us, if we allow it to, with the never-ending
inspiration to excel in our own lives.
MacDonald once said, “Integrity is not a conditional word. It
doesn’t blow in the wind or change with the weather. It is your inner
image of yourself, and if you look in there and see a man who won’t
cheat, then you know he never will.”
JOHN PAUL CARINCI Motivational interview from Germany:
C- 2012 John Paul Carinci
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